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<!--Generated by Squarespace V5 Site Server v5.13.156 (http://www.squarespace.com) on Sun, 19 May 2013 09:25:24 GMT--><feed xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/"><title>Ways to Belong Part 2</title><subtitle>Ways to Belong Part 2</subtitle><id>http://www.grainofwheat.ca/ways-to-belong-part-2/</id><link rel="alternate" type="application/xhtml+xml" href="http://www.grainofwheat.ca/ways-to-belong-part-2/"/><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.grainofwheat.ca/ways-to-belong-part-2/atom.xml"/><updated>2010-09-19T22:11:32Z</updated><generator uri="http://five.squarespace.com/" version="Squarespace V5 Site Server v5.13.156 (http://www.squarespace.com)">Squarespace</generator><entry><title>Ways to Belong (Part 2): What Now?</title><id>http://www.grainofwheat.ca/ways-to-belong-part-2/2010/9/19/ways-to-belong-part-2-what-now.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.grainofwheat.ca/ways-to-belong-part-2/2010/9/19/ways-to-belong-part-2-what-now.html"/><author><name>admin</name></author><published>2010-09-19T21:57:23Z</published><updated>2010-09-19T21:57:23Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-CA"><![CDATA[<p><em>Roger Gateson Sept. 19, 2010</em></p>
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<p>&ldquo;You cannot serve both God and Mammon&rdquo; says the writer of today&rsquo;s Gospel&nbsp; reading.&nbsp; I like that.&nbsp; I like things to be clear cut!&nbsp; However, living it is more complex.&nbsp; And what if&nbsp; Mammon, god of wealth, is only representative of many false gods?...I&lsquo;ll leave that <span style="text-decoration: underline;">with </span>you...Let&rsquo;s hear now from some of our friends.&nbsp; The comments they make are real, but not necessarily their own.</p>
<p><strong>1. You don&rsquo;t need a church to worship God. </strong></p>
<p><strong>2. You don&rsquo;t need a community to have a church!</strong></p>
<p><strong>3. Grain of Wheat is too big.&nbsp; You can&rsquo;t get to know everyone in a group this large.</strong></p>
<p><strong>4. I know some people well; others I hardly know at all.</strong></p>
<p><strong>5. I want to be a Supporting Member; you really get to know people in Seed Groups.</strong></p>
<p><strong>6. I don&rsquo;t like some people in my seed group, but I try to love them all.</strong></p>
<p><strong>7. I don&rsquo;t feel very comfortable here yet, but I admit I don&rsquo;t attend often.</strong></p>
<p><strong>8.&nbsp; I cant be a Member because I want my Wednesdays free for my family.</strong></p>
<p><strong>9.&nbsp; WTB isn&rsquo;t about labeling members; it&rsquo;s about intentions for commitment.</strong></p>
<p><strong>10. I really dislike participating in decisions.&nbsp; There&rsquo;s too much tension for me.</strong></p>
<p><strong>11. Somebody has to make decisions and I&rsquo;m good at it. </strong></p>
<p><strong>12. &ldquo;Ways to Belong&rdquo; is legalistic and unwelcoming. </strong></p>
<p><strong>13. Membership is not just about attendance at meetings!</strong></p>
<p><strong>14. With &ldquo;Ways To Belong&rdquo; at least we choose how much we want to participate. </strong></p>
<p><strong>15. This all irrelevant; it&rsquo;s following Jesus that counts. </strong></p>
<p><strong>16. If you truly value something you have to be willing to help make it work.</strong></p>
<p><strong>17. ALL: STAND and READ your COMMENT <span style="text-decoration: underline;">3 TIMES</span> SIMULTANEOUSLY&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <span style="text-decoration: underline;">CREATING CHAOS!</span></strong></p>
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<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Not</span> so clear cut! &hellip;&nbsp; <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Last week</span> I made what <span style="text-decoration: underline;">I</span> thought was a <span style="text-decoration: underline;">fairly</span> restrained appeal for reflection on your life and G.o.W.&rsquo;s place in it, in preparation for recommitment this coming Wednesday&hellip; <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Today</span> you get an <span style="text-decoration: underline;">unabashed </span>Servant-leader&rsquo;s pitch to increase your participation! Let me rephrase <span style="text-decoration: underline;">that</span>:&nbsp; Today I&rsquo;m <span style="text-decoration: underline;">personally inviting you</span> to participate more actively in G.o.W&hellip; Rather than <span style="text-decoration: underline;">requirements and expectations</span>, I hope you hear<span style="text-decoration: underline;"> invitation </span>and<span style="text-decoration: underline;"> opportunity</span>.</p>
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<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Now</span>, about some of those <span style="text-decoration: underline;">comments</span> we just heard:</p>
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<p>Do we need a church to worship God? Does God need G.o.W?&nbsp;&nbsp; Most of us <span style="text-decoration: underline;">do</span> feel a need to gather with a worshipping community.&nbsp; The others, I suppose are at <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stella&rsquo;s</span>.&nbsp; Perhaps they&rsquo;ll worship later in the day&hellip; Beyond the act of joining in the music, hearing Scripture, praying together, celebrating Communion, there&rsquo;s a quality of worshiping together, and a sense of the Spirit moving that most of us don&rsquo;t get, worshipping alone.&nbsp; God&rsquo;s presence is felt in the body of worshippers and seen in each other&hellip;As we say, &ldquo;we <span style="text-decoration: underline;">are</span> the Body of Christ&rdquo;&hellip;God <span style="text-decoration: underline;">doesn&rsquo;t</span> need us; but <span style="text-decoration: underline;">we</span> need <span style="text-decoration: underline;">God</span> and we need the body&hellip;We don&rsquo;t claim to be <span style="text-decoration: underline;">better</span>; it&rsquo;s just <span style="text-decoration: underline;">our</span> way...Have you ever considered that in addition to making possible a worship service, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">your offerings</span> of music, leadership, reading, setting up, caring for children, teaching, looking after the library, planning, managing finances are <span style="text-decoration: underline;">all</span> gifts to the community and are, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">at heart</span>, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">acts</span> of <span style="text-decoration: underline;">worship</span>?</p>
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<p>Do we need a community?&nbsp; All churches have some sense of community, but we have made it an <span style="text-decoration: underline;">integral</span> part of ours&hellip;Remember there&rsquo;s that celebrated hyphen in G.o.W .C.-C&hellip; We enjoy strong relationships and friendships, and together we have opportunities to serve others&hellip;It&rsquo;s <span style="text-decoration: underline;">challenging</span> but <span style="text-decoration: underline;">rewarding</span>...Building and maintaining community is just one way of being disciples of Jesus&hellip;This community supports and challenges us as we continue on the faith journey...and it gives a meaningful focus to our lives&hellip; However, a community is made up of it&rsquo;s <span style="text-decoration: underline;">members</span>. You might recall a song, &ldquo;We are the world.&rdquo;&nbsp; <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Well</span>, we are the <span style="text-decoration: underline;">community</span>!&nbsp; A few days ago a member asked me why I cared if he came to members&rsquo; meetings.&nbsp; I replied: because you are a part of my community!&nbsp; I <span style="text-decoration: underline;">like</span> to see you there! I <span style="text-decoration: underline;">need</span> you there! He responded, &ldquo;No one&rsquo;s ever said that before&rdquo;&nbsp; If that&rsquo;s true, we have been neglecting each other.</p>
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<p>Size <span style="text-decoration: underline;">is</span> a legitimate concern, but I think the issue really is how we establish <span style="text-decoration: underline;">relationships</span>.&nbsp; It&rsquo;s true that after worship, the time is short and the group is large, and it <span style="text-decoration: underline;">is</span> impossible to connect meaningfully&hellip;So, for more intimate connection most of us look to seed groups which have only 8 or 9 members&hellip;Those who have been in G.o.W. for a while will attest to the <span style="text-decoration: underline;">close bonds</span> and <span style="text-decoration: underline;">lasting friendships</span> often formed amongst Supporting Members in seed groups&hellip;If you are attending worship as a <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Friend of G.o.W</span>., as you&rsquo;re <span style="text-decoration: underline;">welcome</span> to do, but want to experience <span style="text-decoration: underline;">more</span> of community, talk to me about how you can become part of a seed group&hellip;You will be supported <span style="text-decoration: underline;">and</span> <span style="text-decoration: underline;">you</span> will be a gift of support to others&hellip;If you are ready to commit to the expectations of Covenant Membership, there is an opportunity in the larger Members&rsquo; circle, as current members know, to get to know more folks and to share more deeply in the wider life of the community&hellip;Life is <span style="text-decoration: underline;">busy</span>;&hellip; life <span style="text-decoration: underline;">can</span> be <span style="text-decoration: underline;">very</span> <span style="text-decoration: underline;">hard</span>.&nbsp; But <span style="text-decoration: underline;">sharing our lives</span> and <span style="text-decoration: underline;">learning together</span>, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">teaching each other</span>, supporting easch <span style="text-decoration: underline;">other</span> can be life-giving specially in the <span style="text-decoration: underline;">midst</span> of busyness <span style="text-decoration: underline;">and</span> hardship&hellip;Covenant Members are the <span style="text-decoration: underline;">glue</span> of the community, committed to it&rsquo;s <span style="text-decoration: underline;">health</span>, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">preservation</span>, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">transformation</span>.&nbsp; I invite you to be a part of the circle.&nbsp; If you haven&rsquo;t been a Covenant Member before, become a Novice Member and try it for a year.&nbsp; You&rsquo;ll also be assigned a Companion with whom you can share the experience.&nbsp; If&nbsp; you&rsquo;re <span style="text-decoration: underline;">already</span> a Covenant Member, I hope you we&rsquo;ll c<span style="text-decoration: underline;">ontinue</span> to <span style="text-decoration: underline;">se</span>e you in the circle.</p>
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<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">How</span> we spend our time is a reflection of what we <span style="text-decoration: underline;">value</span>.&nbsp; In days gone by, Members <span style="text-decoration: underline;">set aside</span> Wednesdays for <span style="text-decoration: underline;">eithe</span>r seed groups or members&rsquo; meetings.&nbsp; Some of us today, find that rather too much&hellip;Times <span style="text-decoration: underline;">have </span>changed, but looking at it objectively: seed groups meet twice a month and Covenant Members have <span style="text-decoration: underline;">one</span> additional meeting&hellip; That&rsquo;s an average of 1 1/2 hours a week.&nbsp; The question is:&nbsp; Is G.o.W. worth <span style="text-decoration: underline;">1 &frac12; hours a week</span>?&nbsp; Y<span style="text-decoration: underline;">ou</span> certainly <span style="text-decoration: underline;">are</span> worth 1 &frac12; hours a week!</p>
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<p>If, as a Covenant Member, you find setting the course for the community rewarding, then I invite you to join the DMC&nbsp; It meets on the 4 th Wednesday of the month bringing the total package to 2 hours a week &ndash; as it has always been&hellip;</p>
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<p>Membership is about giving and receiving; <span style="text-decoration: underline;">not</span> about attendance at Wednesday meetings; nor is it about&nbsp; <span style="text-decoration: underline;">labels</span> and <span style="text-decoration: underline;">categories</span>&hellip;Laura, Stu, and I support the WTB because this is a way to invite people to levels of participation with which they feel comfortable. <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Annually</span> we have the opportunity to invite folks to <span style="text-decoration: underline;">more</span>, because we believe that being part of worship and community is <span style="text-decoration: underline;">enriching</span>.&nbsp; As Ruth Barton says&nbsp; ( <span style="text-decoration: underline;">P128</span> ) in her book, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership</span>, &ldquo; we (as leaders) are not primarily inviting people into our <span style="text-decoration: underline;">plans and schemes</span>. We are inviting them into a <span style="text-decoration: underline;">life-giving way of life in God</span>.&rdquo;</p>
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<p>As I invite <span style="text-decoration: underline;">you</span> to <span style="text-decoration: underline;">fuller participation</span> in G.o.W. I do so because G.o.W. is worth <span style="text-decoration: underline;">preserving</span>&hellip;and <span style="text-decoration: underline;">improving</span>&hellip;and because together we can continue to grow in faith and discipleship. I also believe that you will receive as much or more than will be asked of you.&nbsp; Membership and the multitude of <span style="text-decoration: underline;">teams</span> and <span style="text-decoration: underline;">committee</span>s that will welcome your presence are just the <span style="text-decoration: underline;">framework</span> for our life together. To provide support and encouragement, and a setting in which to worship God and serve each other and the wider community, we need the active participation of members and friends, you and you and you <span style="text-decoration: underline;">and m</span>e&hellip;. God is calling us&hellip; Blessings.</p>]]></content></entry></feed>